Parent Resources: How to Talk to Your Child About Sexual Health

iknowmine staff - Thursday, July 05, 2012

To follow our last post about Planned Parenthood’s excellent post about when to start having your child visit the OB-GYN after their first period we are sharing some tips about talking to your child about their sexual health. These are tips that all adults who work with children can benefit from.  In fact, here at iknowmine.org, Connie, Janie, and I (Taija), send out Adult Chat Packs all over Alaska and even to the lower 48! In these packs we include information about how to talk to children about sexual health, information about STDs, information about healthy relationships, resources, and what iknowmine.org can do for you, your family, and your community. If you would like a chat pack mailed to you for absolutely FREE, just private message us your name and address or send an email to me at: Taija Revels, tnrevels@anthc.org.

HOW TO PREPARE AND TALK TO YOUR CHILD ABOUT THEIR SEXUAL HEALTH

Be prepared: Practice

It isn’t always easy to talk about sexual health with your kids. In fact, it can be extremely difficult for some parents. Don’t be afraid to practice. You can practice in front of a mirror, with your spouse or partner, or with friends. Your ability to speak comfortably about sexual health will make your child more comfortable asking questions and discussing sensitive issues.  Included in your chat pack are facts about STDs to help you increase your knowledge.  Take some time to look over all the information in your packet.

Communicate your values

In addition to talking to your children about the physical facts pertaining to sex, it’s important that they also understand sexual relationships involving feelings of caring and issues of responsibility. Parents need to make their children aware of their values about sex. Although your child may not adopt these values as their own, it’s important that children are aware of them as they develop their own set of values about sexuality.  Knowing your values will help guide them in making theirs.  Sometimes it helps to take a few minutes to write down your feelings and values about sex, unplanned pregnancy and STDs/HIV. 

It’s OK to say “I don’t know”

You do not need to be a sexual health expert. It’s OK if you don’t know all of the answers to all of your child’s questions and to say “I don’t know.” If you don’t know the answer to your child’s questions, you can make the search for the answer together.  Make it into an opportunity to grow and learn together. 

Create an open and safe environment

It is important that when you are ready to have a talk about sexual health with your child that you create an environment that feels safe.  Children who have a sense of connection to parents are more likely than other children to wait to have sex. Children who have previous discussions of sexuality with parents are more likely to feel able to communicate with a partner about STDs/HIV/AIDS. Not only do open relationships and environments have positive effects on the sexual risk-taking behaviors of children, they also give your child a safe place for asking questions.  Be available, honest, and attentive. This will show your child that you are always available for them and it is safe to come and talk to you anytime.  Preplan a safe and private place for you and your child to talk.  Make sure to set aside a good amount of time for your talk. 

Talk WITH your child, not AT your child

It is important to talk with your child. Make sure you listen to your child the way you want your child to listen to you. Try to ask questions that will encourage him or her to share specific information about feelings, decisions, and actions. It is important for you to understand exactly what your kids are saying, that your children feel they have been heard, and that their opinions are valued, even when they differ from your own.  This talk should feel more like an open and safe conversation to your child, not a lecture.

For more excellent information and guides for parents about youth, sex, and their bodies please visit: www.plannedparenthood.com/parents

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Get Out the Vote

iknowmine staff - Thursday, July 05, 2012

Voter Registration at Indian Health Clinic Can Boost Indian Turnout at Polls

Can this be implement in Alaska? Does this occur in your community already? Share!

indiancountry:

Voting should be easy, almost routine. If it’s election day, we should vote. It’s that simple because it’s the very foundation of democracy. It is only when “we” have a say in what happens next, in our future, that governance meets the basic test of a democracy.

But, too often, that’s not the case for American Indians and Alaska Natives. This week the National Congress of American Indians called the problem of access to voting a “civic emergency” requiring an immediate fix.

(via indiancountry)

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Supreme Court rules Affordable Care Act Constitutional

iknowmine staff - Thursday, June 28, 2012

Supreme Court rules Affordable Care Act Constitutional!

myplannedparenthood:

BREAKING NEWS: Supreme Court rules the Affordable Care Act constitutional - a major victory for the health of women and families. Today’s ruling means millions of women will have access to birth control without co-pay … Millions of women  - many of whom had no coverage or inadequate coverage previously - will have access to affordable, quality health care. Planned Parenthood congratulates the President, supportive senators and representatives, and the Supreme Court for making the Affordable Care Act a reality!

How do you think this will impact Indian Country? How will this affect IHS?

(via myplannedparenthood)

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US Supreme Court Upholds Indian Health Law and Obama Health Law

iknowmine staff - Thursday, June 28, 2012

US Supreme Court Upholds Indian Health Law and Larger Obama Health Law

indiancountry:

WASHINGTON – In a major victory for the Obama administration, the individual mandate of the Affordable Care Act (ACA) of 2010 has survived under the taxing power of the Congress, according to a widely anticipated decision handed down by the U.S. Supreme Court on June 28. Also surviving is the Indian Health Care Improvement Act (IHCIA), which was part of the larger law and paved the way to permanently reauthorizing some important federal and tribal Indian health-related programs and funding pathways.

Interesting, how many of you knew that the Indian Health Care Improvement Act was hidden inside of the Affordable Health Care Act?

(via indiancountry)

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Women of Color and HIV

iknowmine staff - Thursday, June 21, 2012
redpumpproject:
“ 85% of Black women with HIV contracted the disease through heterosexual sex.
Graphic from: US Conference on AIDS
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redpumpproject:

85% of Black women with HIV contracted the disease through heterosexual sex. 

Graphic from: US Conference on AIDS

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Fact: Average Penis Size

iknowmine staff - Thursday, June 21, 2012

How long is the average penis?

fuckyeahsexualhealth:

The average erect penis is 5 1/2 inches long, the same length as a sharpie marker.



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Planned Parenthood: How about Home Pregnancy Tests?

iknowmine staff - Thursday, June 21, 2012

Hi! We're Planned Parenthood: Home Pregnancy Tests

plannedparenthood:

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Someone asked us:

Q. Where can I get a home pregnancy test? How much do they cost? How reliable are they?

Pregnancy tests are really accurate: Most work 99 out of 100 times if you take it after you miss your period. Pregnancy tests can be less effective if you take them too early or…

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Condom Use: Everyone of All Ages Should Use Condoms

iknowmine staff - Thursday, June 21, 2012
plannedparenthood:
“ There’s a ton of interesting info in this graphic, but it’s especially striking how condom use decreases with age, even with casual partners. Condoms shouldn’t be something you grow out of as you get older — the protection they...

plannedparenthood:

There’s a ton of interesting info in this graphic, but it’s especially striking how condom use decreases with age, even with casual partners. Condoms shouldn’t be something you grow out of as you get older — the protection they offer against STDs is unrivaled by any other form of birth control besides abstinence! Your high school sweetheart may not be in your life anymore, but condoms should be. 

source good.is

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Are we Really Helping? Re-thinking Safer Sex Messages

iknowmine staff - Thursday, June 21, 2012

Focus group finds rural NC African-American teens don’t identify with safer sex messaging

hellyeahscarleteen:

“In 2006, we recruited 37 black adolescents from two rural North Carolina counties to participate in focus groups exploring adolescent understanding of how primary prevention strategies reduce STD transmission, described common barriers to the adoption of prevention strategies, and identified risk reduction strategies adolescents commonly employ,” says Aletha Y. Akers, assistant professor of obstetrics and gynecology at the University of Pittsburgh.

“What we found is adolescents understand how STDs are transmitted but consider primary prevention strategies like abstinence and consistent condom use unlikely or difficult to implement.”

As reported in the journal Perspectives on Sexual and Reproductive Health, adolescents in the study say they develop their own strategies to reduce their STD risk, which include indirect partner assessments like evaluating a person’s physical appearance, eye contact, and body language.

Girls who were interviewed often used regular STD testing as a way to fact-check their partners’ faithfulness. As long as they remained STD-free, they felt they could trust their partners’ commitment.

“This study is incredibly important because it shows us a disconnect between adolescents and the public health messages put forth,” Akers says. “We need to identify whatever misconceptions about STD transmission they may have and correct them.

Read the rest here or read the original study.

For a check-in on what safer sex is NOT — like what people look like, or only one person’s test results — you can have a lookie-loo here.

I feel like this is also true in Alaska Native/American Indian/NDN populations. True? Not true?

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ANTHC Hosts Statewide Tribal HIV/STD Taskforce

iknowmine staff - Monday, June 11, 2012
We’re hosting the Tribal HIV/STD Statewide Taskforce and have awesome speakers! #std #hiv (Taken with Instagram at BP Energy Center)

We’re hosting the Tribal HIV/STD Statewide Taskforce and have awesome speakers! #std #hiv (Taken with Instagram at BP Energy Center)

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